Mobile Phone, Smartphone, Hand
How many people feel a little apprehensive if our phone rings? It may be that it occurs so infrequently that we are shocked and put off answering it, then later text the caller to ask what they wanted! Failing that, we may suspect that it’s either a nuisance or sales call. All our buddies text us nowadays, surely! Then there’s the anxiety we might feel over the reason for the call; is it an urgent matter, is someone sick?
Recent figures released by Ofcam show that the number of cellular voice calls made in 2017 dropped by 1.7percent in the UK, the first time the number of mobile call made has ever fallen.
Texting is great but it has its limitations and there is a personal, human connection from a phone call that can not be made when using text.
Sometimes we really need to pick up the phone and make that call.
Are there times when you have wondered about the tone of a text message? Even a simple’thank you’ could be misconstrued and interpreted in a number of ways, from amusing to appreciative, with lots of nuances in-between. Equally, someone texting that they’re fine may be a cover-up to prevent displaying vulnerability as to how they are truly feeling. A text might be their way of keeping hold of their emotions, yet it serves only to distance them from true support.
Yes, texts are effective as they can be transmitted at any time, allowing us to tick yet another item off the to do list, but they could also be evasive. Many a time I’ve felt annoyed when somebody has repeatedly ignored replying to a part of a question and finally I’ve ended up phoning them in order to get some straight answers.
Texts can put a distance between us and our friends. We know to protect our more personal side and issue edited highlights, so managing the information we release about ourselves. Social networking is in part responsible for this as so many of the images we regularly see are of stunning people posing in gorgeous outfits, looking perfect at gorgeous venues. Nobody sees the post-selfie pictures where everyone flops back down again, letting normality resume once they’d updated their newsfeed.
Phoning someone for a conversation provides a real opportunity to connect, to discuss what’s happening, swap ideas and get to know each other better. Previously unplanned invitations may occur as a result, like suggesting meeting for a coffee, or linking with other arrangements, things that might not have been considered in a straight text exchange.
Some people think that telephone calls are only for older people, but young people, perhaps away from home for the first time, finding their feet at university or in a new job, can be incredibly lonely for the first few weeks or months whilst they’re settling into a new location. Stress and mental health issues can affect any of us and a phone call can offer an important link with friends, familiarity and unconditional support.
Talking to somebody who knows you, possibly about trivia, can be a great source of comfort. Feeling connected to what you know and love, even for a few short minutes can make such a difference to feeling that you’re okay and that things will turn out fine.
Set aside time to reconnect with your genuine human relationships. Make a boil, pull a comfortable chair and speak, really chat with that friend or relative you’ve not spoken to in so long.
Up the Phone

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